True Story
by David Hancock

“Back in 2001 or ‘02, I met a guy in New York City. His name was Guillermo and he was a sexy little beast. I wasn’t smitten, but we had some fun. Skating on the river, phone conversations; more than just hooking up. Two weeks after we met, he called me on the phone and said, “Look, I have to tell you something.” I listened and then assured him it was not a problem. And then I never spoke to him again.

To Guillermo and other poz dudes: I’m really sorry for the shitty way I’ve treated you through the years. The way I coldfished you after you put your cards on the table. Or how I’ve sped past your online profiles when I saw the “+” sign.

I wouldn’t open my heart for you, even a little. I was too scared. And then it just became an engrained habit to excise you. In 2014, I want to free my mind. I want to shake off knee-jerk behaviors that are rooted in decades-old fears. I’m tired of living in fear of HIV.

[Continued….]

And What About the Dating?Rae Lewis Thornton writes, in her most recent blog:
…My problem today dating with HIV and Herpes isn’t fear of rejection. It’s finding a man who who wants to share a meal and listen to Mozart with me. Someone to cheer me on as I do this work around HIV/AIDS. Someone who isn’t ashamed to be dating “the woman with AIDS.”

And What About the Dating?

Rae Lewis Thornton writes, in her most recent blog:

…My problem today dating with HIV and Herpes isn’t fear of rejection. It’s finding a man who who wants to share a meal and listen to Mozart with me. Someone to cheer me on as I do this work around HIV/AIDS. Someone who isn’t ashamed to be dating “the woman with AIDS.”

Magnetic Attraction


Love does not discriminate. Nor should it let something like HIV get in its way. Just ask the three serodiscordant (a.k.a. “magnetic”) couples profiled here.

In each long-term couple, one partner is living with the virus while the other is not. Despite their individual differences, they all share one thing in common: All of them refuse to allow an HIV status to limit their lives and their relationships.

These lovebirds are proof that living with HIV does not have to mean limiting your dating pool to other positive people—or, worse, resigning yourself to celibacy or loneliness.

Serodiscordant couples do face a unique set of challenges—many of which are shared in the following profiles—but in the end, as these inspiring duos prove, love conquers the day.

Heart to Heart : Three HIV-positive couples share their inspiring love stories.
Living with HIV doesn’t mean you have to live without love and romance. Plenty of positive people have met, and married, their soul mates. How do these couples make it work? What role does the virus play in their relationships and health? And what advice can they offer lovelorn singles and struggling couples? Three long-term couples—in which both partners are HIV positive—get to the heart of the matter.
Read more… http://www.poz.com/articles/positive_couples_2757_23314.shtml

Heart to Heart : Three HIV-positive couples share their inspiring love stories.

Living with HIV doesn’t mean you have to live without love and romance. Plenty of positive people have met, and married, their soul mates. How do these couples make it work? What role does the virus play in their relationships and health? And what advice can they offer lovelorn singles and struggling couples? Three long-term couples—in which both partners are HIV positive—get to the heart of the matter.

Read more… http://www.poz.com/articles/positive_couples_2757_23314.shtml