Mark S. King: The Fog of a Thousand Years
In his latest blog, King writes about childhood, black eyes and brotherhood from the eyes of “a pimple-faced pansy”:
"I resented [David’s] effortless masculinity and the fact I had to watch this annoyingly handsome straight dude grow up right beside me, reminding me on a daily basis of all I would never be…He became the default stand-in for the injustices of my youth."
Computerized Counseling Ups Adherence, Lowers Risky Sex
The CARE+ program counsels participants about treatment adherence, HIV disclosure, safer sex, condom use, substance abuse and how adherence affects viral load. & Studies prove it can be a good addition to your normal HIV treatment regimen.
Those Newly Diagnosed With HIV, STIs Can Help Find Other Cases
Asking recently diagnosed patients to recruit members of their social/sexual network for testing might be awkward, but it seriously helps root out other undiagnosed cases. Do the responsible thing.
Sean Strub: HIV Panic Again Trumps Justice, Education
A local PA newspaper reports that a 25-year-old woman from the central part of the stae was charged with sexual assault, simple assault and recklessly endangering another person — because she allegedly did not disclose her HIV status to a sexual partner. The article doesn’t note whether her sex partner acquired HIV, but did violate her privacy by printing her name and the town she lives, thereby outing her HIV status to her community. This type of irresponsible reportage leads to a conviction in the court of public opinion before the woman even goes to trial.
Viktor Luna of Project Runway Discloses He Has HIV
He joins Mondo Guerra from season 8, as well as Jack Mackenroth of season 4, as openly HIV-positive alumni of the show.
"As a public figure, and as an "All Star," it was my duty to be one of the many people to show that you are not alone, and you can still follow your dreams… It was like lifting a huge boulder off my shoulder, and I finally feel completely proud of the person I am."
To read the rest of his coming out blog entry on HuffPo, click here.
…My problem today dating with HIV and Herpes isn’t fear of rejection. It’s finding a man who who wants to share a meal and listen to Mozart with me. Someone to cheer me on as I do this work around HIV/AIDS. Someone who isn’t ashamed to be dating “the woman with AIDS.”
The Outcome of Denial and Isolation
Republished from the the POZ forums: A brother recounts the recent gut-wrenching AIDS-related death of his sibling, day by day.
"Silence = Death. Denial = Death. The pain of going through what we (his mother, his family, his friends) have went through and continue to go through has made it very clear to me that HIV is a big deal; that the fear of telling others and their response does not come close to what we have had to deal with and what my brother put himself through; and that this did not have to happen in 2013."
“I rewrote the definitions of ‘what if’ and instead of it ending with a negative conclusion, replacing it with positive outcomes. I had to let go of trying to control the endings and just let it happen and then deal with the ramifications good or bad. And in that moment recognizes it was not the word ‘what if’ that I had issues with but it was the word control. I wanted to be one who decided to reject me. I wanted to control who knew my status…”
Tables Turned: HIV and the Other Side of Stigma
An HIV-negative trans man reacts to his friend coming out as HIV positive, deciding to do what he wishes others had done to him.
"An estimated 195,313 Black MSM in the United States have HIV. One of them is my best friend. One of them is my best friend. And I love him. Just as I am not “his trans friend,” he is not “my HIV-positive friend.” We are not objects to be tokenized. He is my friend—my brother—and I am his.”
An opportunity to disclose your orientation — and your status.
This National Coming Out Day, The National Minority AIDS Council, The National Black Gay Men’s Advocacy Coalition, and The Stigma Project have teamed up on a new social media campaign, “Come Out Against Stigma.” This is an opportunity for queer people to come out, not just about their sexuality but also about their HIV status.