True Story
by David Hancock

“Back in 2001 or ‘02, I met a guy in New York City. His name was Guillermo and he was a sexy little beast. I wasn’t smitten, but we had some fun. Skating on the river, phone conversations; more than just hooking up. Two weeks after we met, he called me on the phone and said, “Look, I have to tell you something.” I listened and then assured him it was not a problem. And then I never spoke to him again.

To Guillermo and other poz dudes: I’m really sorry for the shitty way I’ve treated you through the years. The way I coldfished you after you put your cards on the table. Or how I’ve sped past your online profiles when I saw the “+” sign.

I wouldn’t open my heart for you, even a little. I was too scared. And then it just became an engrained habit to excise you. In 2014, I want to free my mind. I want to shake off knee-jerk behaviors that are rooted in decades-old fears. I’m tired of living in fear of HIV.

[Continued….]

We Did the Math: What’s Your Long-term Risk of Transmitting HIV?

The authors of a pair of new studies have created mathematical models to show how a small per-act risk of HIV transmission can translate to more substantial long-term risk after many sexual acts.

NOTE: While these studies’ findings can’t be applied to individual circumstances and aren’t necessarily an exact roadmap to navigating risk, they do teach important lessons about how to think about risk.

Weiner Should Have Let it All Hang Out
At GMHC’s Mayoral Candidate Forum Focusing on HIV/AIDS, “Weiner was in the perfect position to illustrate how the public’s focus on sexting, instead of his record as a City Councilor and a member of the House of Representatives, was just one example of the stigma attached to sex that makes safer sex education, prevention campaigns, and getting people on treatment more difficult. 

He was well poised to discuss sexting as a safer sex method, yet not without risks. 

He was in a place where he could easily distance himself from his predecessors, such as Koch and Giuliani, whose puritan approach to sex not only cost people’s lives (in Koch’s case), but also gutted in the city (under Giuliani’s rule). 

And, he was situated to establish himself as something we know him to be, and someone relatable - a sexual being. 
While talking about sex could be seen as a political risk, the pay off for ushering in a frank discussion may be worth it.”

Weiner Should Have Let it All Hang Out

At GMHC’s Mayoral Candidate Forum Focusing on HIV/AIDS, “Weiner was in the perfect position to illustrate how the public’s focus on sexting, instead of his record as a City Councilor and a member of the House of Representatives, was just one example of the stigma attached to sex that makes safer sex education, prevention campaigns, and getting people on treatment more difficult.

He was well poised to discuss sexting as a safer sex method, yet not without risks.

He was in a place where he could easily distance himself from his predecessors, such as Koch and Giuliani, whose puritan approach to sex not only cost people’s lives (in Koch’s case), but also gutted in the city (under Giuliani’s rule).

And, he was situated to establish himself as something we know him to be, and someone relatable - a sexual being.

While talking about sex could be seen as a political risk, the pay off for ushering in a frank discussion may be worth it.”